Change is inevitable. At one point or another in life, we’re going to find ourselves in a period of transition, but the real question is: “why do we tend to resist change so much?” Is it because change can be scary? I think so. There is inherent fear in the unknown for many of us, and it can feel more comfortable to just stay in the routines and roles we are used to. That is why transition can feel so profoundly uncomfortable, but it doesn’t have to feel that way. Trust me, I know.
You see, a little over a year ago, I found myself thrust into a period of change, because in March of 2019, I became something I never imagined I would become: a stay-at-home dad. Now, please don’t take that statement as a negative; I LOVE being at home with our daughter, and the time I’ve been lucky enough to have with her has been amazing! I wake up everyday grateful for the situation I am in, but back then, as I embarked down the path I find myself on now, I was honestly more terrified than anything else.
All I had known up until that time in my life was pretty much school and sports. As a former student / student-athlete that grew up to be a teacher / coach, the routines and roles I had developed were deeply ingrained within me. I was comfortable in the classroom and on the court, but I found myself in a place of discomfort when thinking about how I would fill the days with our daughter. I doubted that she’d love listening to lectures on Shakespeare or that I’d be able to give much constructive feedback on her crayon drawings, so I began to worry that I had made a mistake by requesting a leave of absence from school to care for my daughter in this way. That’s tough for me to admit, but it’s the truth.
Luckily, also at this time, I found life coaching; without which, I am pretty sure I’d be stuck in that same mindset to this day. What I realized shortly into life coach training was that I was learning as much about myself as I was the profession, and I tried to apply each new concept from class to my own life. It was through this process that I was able to design more effective mindsets, habits, and actions to make the most of the new world I was living in. With the help of my instructors and peers, I gained clarity on who I wanted to be while at home with our daughter and what I wanted to accomplish, and this clarity was so important to relieving that terror and replacing it with excitement. In short, life coaching turned my whole perspective on the situation upside down.
I tell this story to not only show that it is possible to make the most out of a change but also to acknowledge that it can be hard to do it alone. Sometimes we need an ally to be in our corner while pushing us to see the world differently, and it would be an honor to be that ally for you. No matter what change you’re going through, I believe I can help you make the most of it. If interested, set-up your free introductory session to let me know what’s going on in your life and what you’d like to see for your future.
Together, we can reach that next peak!